“In reviewing my work with alienated children suffering inter-generational transmission of trauma I have begun to identify the core elements of therapeutic work which assists families to heal and to begin to flow. One of those core elements is the existence in everyone in the family of the use of psychological splitting. Thus in reunification work, what we are dealing with is not only the psychological split in the child, we are working with splitting in the alienating parent AND in the rejected parent to a certain degree.”
Life. One thing I know about it is that it doesn’t stay the same. Everything changes and being able to recognise that is one of the key resilience skills for living. In my life right now everything is changing as I continue to navigate the generational shifts coming my way. Moving from one place in life to the next (sometimes literally, sometimes figuratively), we find ourselves living our life amongst the lives of others around us, sandwiched between generations still living and those long gone. Truly we are not alone. In the external and internal our lives are rivers running through the landscapes of the lives of others with whom we are linked. Learning to flow, even in the face of loss and adversity is our greatest task of all.
This week, in between the personal responsibilities I am currently managing, I have been reviewing my research with young people…
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