We^’re told again and again that we’re not supposed to hate, resent, fear or discard our parents. We’re supposed to honor them, love them, cherish them, be loyal to them, take care of them in their old age.
Because of these traditions, adult survivors of child abuse ultimately suffer in three distinct ways:
- They suffer the abuse itself
- They suffer the loss of knowing what should have been – the loss of a supportive parent, of a loving home and a safe refuge.
- They suffer the consequences of protecting themselves from that abuse. They are often left feeling guilty, judged, condemned by society, religion, their communities and their families