“The abdication of “parental responsibility” by pleading selective parental incompetence is disingenuous – and ALL healthy and normal parents see this clearly – because we are normal and healthy parents.
The ONLY people who do not see this are people who do not understand parenting – who have their own agenda in working through their own childhood family relationship issues. Every single normal and healthy parent understands the expected role of normal and healthy parental executive leadership in the family.”
A role-reversal relationship is one in which the child is used to meet the parent’s emotional and psychological needs.
In normal and healthy parent-child relationships, the child uses the parent to meet the child’s emotional and psychological needs.
In a normal and healthy parent-child relationship, the parent is said to act as a “regulatory object” for the child.
In a normal and healthy parent-child relationship, when the child becomes upset and distressed (dysregulated), the parent acts in soothing and structuring ways to bring the child back into an emotionally and behaviorally organized and regulated state. The parent acts as a “regulatory object” – also called a “regulatory other” – for the child.
This is normal and healthy. The child is using the parent to meet the child’s needs. The parent is an external “regulatory other” for the child.
In a role-reversal relationship, however, this normal…
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