“The victim can think of a million reason why they have to stay in contact with the N, all of them valid in their minds; (I know, I did it too) but if you are really honest with yourself deep down at the root of it is, even though you don’t want to take him back and know he is a narcissist you are not ready to give up one or all of these things;
Solving the puzzle
you don’t want another woman to reap the rewards of your efforts
as long as he is in your life in some form or another, he is still in your life and you are comfortable in the position of victim
you are not prepared to face reality and are clinging to the fantasy of who you thought he was or in other words Cognitive Dissonance”
Many people compare dealing with a narcissist to dealing with a 3 year old and in many ways that is a totally accurate description.
Like a 3 year old the narcissist will stomp his feet and yell that he hates you for not giving him his way and an hour or so later he is back like nothing happened. He will kick and scream to get what he wants only to not want it once he gets it. Or he will totally ignore a toy and toss it off to the side until someone else shows an interest in it and it immediately becomes his favorite toy or like a 3 year old he wants what everyone else has and will steal it if he has to and then act like he doesn’t understand why he is in trouble.
I found the 3’s to be way worse than the two’s!…
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