“That’s because we’re not supposed to listen to gossip in the first place. If someone is painted in an unflattering light, we should stop the conversation dead in its tracks and then insert a kind word on that person’s behalf. It appears as if an enabler neglects this important step. Instead, they listen to the lies being spread.”
The Role of the Enablers
There’d be no such thing as narcissistic abuse if it weren’t for the enablers. These are the folks who sit on the sidelines and watch someone else being whipped. They could step in, and demand that it stop. They have the power to do so. All it takes is for one or two courageous souls to say “no, this is not okay.” But, for various reasons, enablers elect to remain “neutral.”
The narcissist depends upon these weak-willed comrades. Abusing someone isn’t any fun if it’s only a party of two. With a crowd, there’s unlimited potential for drama. The narcissist can pull a lot more strings that way.
If it were just the abuser, and her target, it wouldn’t be worth it to carry out a full-fledged hate campaign.
So, the narcissist works to get others to turn on the target. The collective betrayal, which…
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