Why aristocrats ‘feel entitled to be abusive’ ~ David Sanderson, THE TIMES, March 28 2015.
An aristocrat who was abused by his father has said that people from “noteworthy families” have more inclination and opportunities to sexually abuse young people.
Robert Montagu, 64, whose memoir outlines the abuse he suffered between the ages of seven and 11 from his father, the 10th Earl of Sandwich, said that he believed there was a sense of “entitlement” among the privileged classes.
Aristocrats ‘feel entitled to abuse people’ says son of the 10th Earl of Sandwich who was raped by his father as a child ~ CHRIS PLEASANCE, MAILONLINE, 28 March 2015.
- Robert Montagu made remarks while discussing book telling of his abuse
- Said ‘noteworthy families’ are often given more opportunities to abuse
- He was groomed and attacked by his own father from age seven to 11
- Confessed abuse to his mother and family doctor but nothing was done
Those from noteworthy families often feel entitled to abuse young people according to Robert Montagu, the son of the 10th Earl of Sandwich who was abused by his own father as a boy.
He made the comments at the Oxford Literary Festival while discussing his book, A Humour Of Love, in which he reveals years of abuse, including a single rape, carried out by father Victor.
Mr Montagu said that, during his years at Eton, rape was common, adding that people with ‘entitled backgrounds’ were given ‘more opportunities’ to be abusive towards children.
Robert Montagu, son of the 10th Earl of Sandwich, suffered years of abuse by his father. Speaking at a Literary festival in Oxford, he said ‘noteworthy families’ often feel entitled to abuse people
In a report for The Times, he said: ‘People from noteworthy families do feel a sense of entitlement.
‘It is true that people from an entitled background have more opportunities, maybe circumstances have made it more likely that they will abuse.
‘We used to have this ethos that you just kept quiet about things in your life. At school you were taught the stiff upper lip. Thank goodness we got rid of that lip.’
Mr Montagu was abused by his father (pictured) from the age of seven to 11, including a single instance of rape
Mr Montagu has talked in the past about how a loving relationship with his father turned to abuse when he was aged seven.
It began after his mother, Rosemary Peto, goddaughter of Queen Maud of Norway, left the family home, and he believes his father used it as a way to cope with the loss.
He wrote about being groomed by his father, as hugs and tickles gave way to kisses, which in turn gave way to serial and serious abuse.
In a previous interview, he said: ‘It was what we did every day. It was accepted that I would always go to his room at half past seven in the morning until quarter to nine.
‘I felt I was fulfilling a function of my mother who was missing. It was my duty, to some extent, to be in the position I was in and that is the reason I did not resist.
‘That feeling was hinted at by my father, by sometimes making comments comparing me to my mother.
‘He never said it in outright terms – we never discussed what he was doing in any terms whatsoever – but it was implicit that I was helping him emotionally.’
At the time of the book’s publication, in September last year, he said it would likely sour relations between himself and his elder brother John, the 11th earl, who is also a peer in the House of Lords.
Speaking now, he says his family are ‘cross and unhappy’ with his book, and that he is given dark looks at family events, and hug which are then turned into pushes.
However, he has repeatedly stated that he felt the story needed to be told, after he revealed the abuse to his mother and family doctor as a young boy, only for it to be swept under the rug.
Mr Montagu has previously told how, every morning, he would be called to his father’s room at the family home at Mapperton, in Dorset (pictured), and would stay there from 7.30 until 8.45am
He said that following his confession he expected his father to be taken to jail, but nothing was done, and Mr Montagu was even returned to his care, though the abuse stopped.
Mr Montagu says there were other victims, beside himself, and that he has personally spoken to ten of them – though believes there could be another ten he has yet to identify.
Asked why there was such a reluctance for her father’s story to be told, his daughter Fiamma said: ‘In our case it has been because of the Establishment. Everybody has a vested interest in getting him to shut up.