| The difference between naked boys and naked girls!

The difference between naked boys and naked girls ~ , The Guardian.

There no denying there are double standards when it comes to nudity, but both sexes need liberating from social oppression.

An article in the US magazine the Atlantic this week described one man’s childhood horror of boys’ open changing rooms and naked school swimming lessons. It felt like an injustice, he said, compared with the privacy that the girls were afforded – and this sense of injustice was only compounded in later life by public medical examinations in the army and extensive training on preserving a patient’s modesty in medical school, which mysteriously left out the needs of men. The message was clear throughout his life, says the author: women get toilet and changing cubicles, gowns at the doctors’ surgery and separate examination rooms. Men get told: man up, pants down.

It is a serious issue, and one that shouldn’t be swept under the carpet with the vague protest that women have to “put up with more”. The dreaded charade of undressing in front of your peers of the same sex is something most of us will have encountered at some point, whether in school or that one time you pledged to do “a year of rigorous exercise” and then went to the gym for a single 20-minute workout. It’s true that women do enjoy facilities catering for modesty a lot more often than their male counterparts. But it would be doing us all a disservice to forget to ask why.

One of the reasons for the difference is that age-old expectation of feminine modesty. Women’s bodies are covered so much more because they are generally considered a lot more sexual than men’s bodies. Most incidences of female nudity in mainstream film will be sexual, while most instances of male nudity are comedic. Think the perpetually naked Hodor in Game of Thrones, or the schoolgirls in Love Actually giggling at pictures of naked men while Andrew Lincoln’s character protests feebly, “Actually, they’re not funny – they’re art.” It’s heavily implied that the joke is on him.

We have seen something of a move toward comedic female nudity in the last few years, which is progress even if women’s bodies only become comedic when they deviate from the young, slim, nubile ideal (think the perpetually horny Megan in Bridesmaids telling the air marshall that he should be able to “feel the heat from my undercarriage”.) This isn’t a million miles away from the treatment of men, who have in the past been presented as naked figures of fun because of their own imperfect bodies.

Until very recently, however, Hollywood was pretending that women who weren’t a certain sexy stereotype didn’t exist at all, lest it ruin the delicate constitutions of the audience forever. Variety in female nudity remains a ridiculously revolutionary concept: you only have to glance at the international news coverage concerning American Apparel’s new 62-year-old underwear model, Jacky O’Shaughnessy, or the rage accompanying Lena Dunham’s regular baring of “imperfect” breasts to realise just how unusual it really is – even dangerous.

And yet there is something even more dangerous than a 62-year-old woman proclaiming that “sexy has no expiry date” on a billboard: the humble boner. We all know they’re there, we are reminded of its existence daily by the spreadeagled “barely legal” models on the covers of certain magazines and such quality literature as the Buzzfeed “definitive ranking of boners from worst to best”. And yet, film and TV classification systems have always assiduously protected the erect penis, routinely categorising it as “obscene” while vaginas often, er, slip through the net. What is it that makes us balk most of all at a willy that’s being used quite naturally for sex rather than an elaborate comedy routine? When 50% of the population have them, what’s the big deal?

Among all this politicised discussion about what happens when people forgo their clothes, we often forget that the right to bare your body should go hand-in-hand with the right to cover it up. It’s clear that if we ever hope to have a sensible discussion about naked bodies, the playing field needs to be levelled for both sexes. Men need changing room partitions and a more sensitive approach to medical examinations. Women’s bodies need to be less policed by that tiresome Madonna/whore dichotomy that demands the hyper-sexualisation of curvy twentysomethings and extreme modesty from everybody else.

Meanwhile, if we could see some boners and stop calling vaginas frou-frous, then we’ll probably make some progress. I have more than one friend who genuinely confided during puberty that they’d become afraid to look down in the shower. For me, this represents the biggest social oppression: being told that your body is monstrous, rather than the most useful tool you’ll ever own. Man or woman, that’s the kind of thinking we need to do away with, as soon as humanly possible.


3 thoughts on “| The difference between naked boys and naked girls!

  1. If I am to believe the Beginning of the Genesis story, what God wanted for us humans, was for us all to live together, naked and unashamed, in a Paradise Garden on Earth God saw was all Good! God expressly warned not to eat from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil. We have all had a taste of that tree. God knows people have a hard time coping with Evil. What was the 1st thing to happen when they disobeyed God and ate from it? Their eyes were opened, they saw they were naked, and covered themselves up, thinking God could not see the secret thoughts of the heart.

    I can only imagine being forever young, living on a planet filled with naked, unashamed people and having no hang-ups about it. There would be no bitter fights over child custody because everyone would innately understand every child is everyone’s child!

    These Days, that’s only a dream, except for the Islamists believing they will get their 74 virgins in that Paradise.of God.


    • Prismicity 101

      When you see what’s in the light, the light sees what’s in you!

      23rd January 2012

      Had light not “seen” man, we should never have seen the light.

      Goethe once said, “You would not exist if the light did not see you. [ . . . ] The eye owes its existence to the light.” (340)

      “Light, ever active, created the eye,” wrote Amherst College professor Arthur Zajonc. “It sculpted an organ suited to itself, like the streaming water shaping the stones over and through which it flows.”


      • O LORD God, to whom vengeance belongs; O God, to whom vengeance belongs, show yourself.
        Lift up yourself, you judge of the earth: render a reward to the proud.

        LORD, how long shall the wicked, how long shall the wicked triumph?
        How long shall they utter and speak hard things? and all the workers of iniquity boast themselves?
        They break in pieces your people, O LORD, and afflict your heritage.
        They slay the widow and the stranger, and murder the fatherless.

        Yet they say, The LORD shall not see, neither shall the God of Jacob regard it.
        Understand, you brutish among the people: and you fools, when will you be wise?

        He that planted the ear, shall he not hear? he that formed the eye, shall he not see?
        He that chastises the heathen, shall not he correct? he that teaches man knowledge, shall not he know?

        The LORD knows the thoughts of man, that they are vanity.

        Blessed is the man whom thou chasten, O LORD, and teaches him out of your law;

        That you may give him rest from the days of adversity, until the pit be digged for the wicked.
        For the LORD will not cast off his people, neither will he forsake his inheritance.

        But Judgment shall return unto Righteousness: and all the upright in heart shall follow it.
        Who will rise up for me against the evildoers? or who will stand up for me against the workers of iniquity?

        Unless the LORD had been my help, my soul had almost dwelt in silence.
        When I said, My foot slips; your mercy, O LORD, held me up.

        In the multitude of my thoughts within me your comforts delight my soul.
        Shall the throne of iniquity have fellowship with you, which frames mischief by a law?
        They gather themselves together against the soul of the righteous, and condemn the innocent blood.

        But the LORD is my defence; and my God is the rock of my refuge.
        And he shall bring upon them their own iniquity, and shall cut them off in their own wickedness; yea, the LORD our God shall cut them off.


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